“He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.” —Matthew 10:37 (NKJV)
Nobody who has ever walked this earth has understood human nature as well as Jesus. He, more than anyone else, knows how we tick, what moves and motivates us, and why we do what we do. And because of that awareness, we must consider His word of warning about loving others more than Him.
Jesus was identifying the relationships in that culture that were the most binding and significant. Fathers and mothers, sons and daughters…these were the relational building blocks of ancient life. Even after several centuries, we still recognize the importance of these relationships. But they were even more essential back in an agrarian society where family identity and resources meant everything. You literally couldn’t survive in the world back then apart from your family.
So the Lord was saying that even the most important relationships can’t come before Him. He has to be the most loved, most cherished, and most important person in your life. In fact, He said if we love someone before Him, we’re not worthy of Him. In other words, He won’t accept being second place…it’s not even an option as far as He’s concerned.
Why? Is Jesus some sort of insecure codependent? No, it’s for our benefit that Christ sounds this warning. Again, He understands how we tick better than anyone. He understands that we are greatly influenced by our relationships. They go a long way in defining who we are and determining what we do. Jesus wants us to be influenced by Him more than anyone else, because others can actually influence us away from the things of God. He never will.
Relationships are incredibly influential. They have an unparalleled “pull-power” on us. They can even pull us off the path of following God, which is why we need to heed Christ’s warning against allowing any relationship to take priority over our relationship with Him.
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THINK ABOUT IT…
What does this passage reveal to me about God?
What does this passage reveal to me about myself?
Based on this, what changes do I need to make?